Dr Ranil Gunewardene is the Clinical Director of Mental Health, at the Hornsby Hospital and Mosman Private Hospital, who has seen the destructive path wrought, by people diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Those with the disorder often have inflated views of their importance and superiority but their key trait is a lack of empathy. While narcissists may appear successful on the outside, they often have damaging relationships with their partners, children and workmates. (and people online-dont we all know )
A question put to the above clinical psychiatrist on a TV panel discussion,
Whats the worst thing that can happen to a narcissist?
His Answer, The worst thing is for them to see themself, while being totally disarmed of all their delusional defences,
And from that heightened and lofty state, if that happens, they will crash to a depressive position.
We see that in therapies sometimes, the failed narcissist, for some narcissists its very hard to sustain that whole thing, but for others it just comes naturally, but if you strip all that down, its like pricking a balloon. Its gone.
Dr Travis Kemp Psychologist butts in to add, In some ways its like having their biggest fears realised, that they are basically just normal and average and this being made true to them, is their worst nightmare,
Dr Ranil Gunewardene then makes a telling addition,
That Narcissists real truth is that they see themselves as a snivelling low life, and they have defended against thinking that, thats what they are avoiding looking at, they dont just think they are a normal person, deep down, they think they are almost nothing.
Observers of the online pseudo-skeptic phenomenon, have long noted the preponderance of narcissism. Numerous times its noted, skeptics start conversations online, notably devoid of subject content, consisting entirely of superior venomous sneering, and snarling toward anyone they can hold in conversation. Its a daily lifestyle practice for many skeptics. Carried on for decades it seems.
So now we have the clue from Dr Ranil Gunewardene, as to what personality characteristic triggers the development
of a skeptic. Low self esteem.
, echoing many other skeptics, talked about feeling contempt for himself for being gulled, by the Santa story. Could NOT forgive himself. Wanted to punish himself, and did with years of anger toward himself. And later the perceived disgrace, of feeling gulled by christianity, simply repeated the process.
The key feature seems to be very low self esteem, self image. Low self worth. Feelings of inferiority. Basically deep down the skeptic feels he is a schmuck. And goes online sneering, at everyone for being 'gullible', like he was, and believing anything. Gullible is the skeptics catch cry. Its the punishment they inflict on themselves and hurl at everyone else on the NET.
If you go in wikki, and look up self harm, you will see its quite common, and has been studied.
It occurs when angry people are frustrated and feel powerless, such as in prison, Skeptics mistakenly feel deeply aggrieved, having to live with themselves as virtual prisoners. Skeptics because they believe they are low lifes, punish themselves for decades, rather than forgiving and forgetting. And doing self harm, goes hand in hand, with doing harm to others, with verbal violence over the NET.
Key phrase here from the psychiatrist explaining why skeptics believe everyone else is the same as them. their key trait is a lack of empathy . Insisting everyone else is deluded like they were. Its total self absorption, and false.
That other people could be, quite different, a lot more empathic, and more grown up, more forgiving toward self, just doesnt occur to them.
This bears repeating, -That Narcissists real truth is that they see themselves as a snivelling low life, and they have defended against thinking that, thats what they are avoiding looking at, they dont just think they are a normal person, deep down, they think they are almost nothing.
And online pseudo-skeptics seem to be products of this mindset, when it meets Santa. A propensity toward self loathing is the key ingredient, and the cruel unforgiveness goes on for decades into adult life. We see this self harm all over the NET.
Hey guys, suddenly you dont look so bad after all ! Please, stop beating yourselves up, and give us a break, too, on the NET. You are nowhere near as ugly as you think, One is reminded of the ugly duckling story.